Wednesday, 1 September 2010

Friends, past and present - thank you!


It was my 14th wedding anniversary yesterday. Wow how times flies! My husband and I had a lovely celebration with a meal at a favourite haunt of ours and remembered old times. How fortunate we are! We remain good friends as well as partners and I love him for his friendship and love. 

Life is ever changing and I have had many friends come in and out of my life. Almost all remain in my heart with precious memories and experiences, even those I no longer see or would care to. They have all been special to me and I am grateful to them for their friendship. Some will always remain in my life while others will drift away, but they have all been special to me for the time they were there. 

Prompted lately in to thinking more about myself and my own needs and desires,  I have come to the conclusion that I need to prioritise my own happiness and satisfaction. It has dawned on me, through conversations, and alone, that my choice of friendships have the ability to make or break me, to shape my life for the better or worse. 

I am beginning to understand why I have loved and lost friends who meant a lot to me, and continued to be in relationships which have stifled and suppressed me. I want and need to be happy and will continue to fill my life with people who help me to achieve this. 

Friends are very important to me and I will try my hardest to ensure that I make every effort to keep our relationships healthy and well if it is a friendship that makes me happy. These people are important to me and my life. They make me laugh and sing, feel joy and comfort. They are precious!

I have also unfortunately come to very the sad conclusion that sometimes there are friendships which don't make me happy. I have wasted too much time worrying and fretting, feeling hurt and upset by these friends. It's not a decision taken lightly. I have given these friendships every effort and it's not been a good way to spend my emotions. These friends, in the present, and in the future I will release. I will remember them for the good times we have shared, not the negativity that our friendship has become caught in. I thank them all for the happiness in our past. 

I look forward to meeting new friends, reacquainting myself with old, and making new memories and stories with them all. 

And to my special missed friend..... this song is for you x

The Corrs - Little Wing


  1. Recently passed on...
    "Old friends pass away, new friends appear. It is just like the days. An old day passes, a new day arrives. The important thing is to make it meaningful: a meaningful friend - or a meaningful day. " DL
    ...thought of you
    There is only so much energy you can spend and there are only so many people you can fit into your days. I used to think I'd become less tolerant over the last few years. I now realise that I'm becoming more selective, because I have to be for self preservation.
    I've decided that the friends that I can pick up where I left off with are the ones I need in my life and the ones that I'm looking forward to spending more time with when my nest is empty and works slows up :o)

  2. Thanks Ceri. very true. And as you know....

    "We all lose friends.. we lose them in death, to distance and over time. But even though they may be lost, hope is not. The key is to keep them in your heart, and when the time is right, you can pick up the friendship right where you left off. Even the lost find their way home when you leave the light on." ~ Amy Marie Walz